Explicitly value conflict training
Training in any martial art can be character building, teach one to deal more calmly with fear, and increase the chances that conflicts will be averted or end up less violently than in the hands of somebody who panics and either runs or escalates without thinking. Extending this beyond physical conflict, the principles shared by martial training and authentic relationship or good citizenship have been explored around the world through time, from ancient empires to contemporary nation-states. Believe it or not, this relationship is not obvious to everyone and needs to be made explicit in order to increase the number of people ready and able to work through conflict toward a best outcome for everyone involved, in short, to make peace.
Though martial arts can increase the capacity for peace-making they can also increase the tendency to respond with casual aggression to any and all conflict. They can also build in the habit of treating all conflict as a simple win-lose equation where rapid victory at any cost is the most highly valued approach. This depends on how a martial art is taught and practiced.
Making the peace-building qualities of martial training "explicit," in this case, means a series of clear (martial) choices -- hours, dollars, and attention must be devoted to the teachers, students, and practitioners who explicitly teach, learn, and practice even the most dynamic and physical of arts as though the highest value of the training involves changing the rules of conflict as a whole so that even the most difficult differences are an opportunity to learn while insisting that nobody loses their soul, heart, or life in the process. This defeats the cycle of violence in a way that uncomplicated Victory and Defeat cannot. The martial arts do this with physical conflict, with subtle undertones reaching into all areas of life as arts do, while the process arts facilitate this rule-changing processing of conflict while differences in groups are not actively being expressed as physical violence.
If you value the peace-building qualities of the arts of conflict, then make this explicit. Become an active member of Aiki Extensions, get involved with Nonviolent Communications, Processwork, or Association Building Community. If you are looking for a dojo, ask out loud if the teaching is explicitly oriented toward peace-making and choose to support the teachers who not only know what this means but can clearly demonstrate their process arts skills off the mat. Celebrate them with posts to your blog, Twitter, and Facebook accounts and review them on Google Maps, Yelp, and other sites.
Make the connection explicit between your thirst for peace and honest conflict work. Ask for it. Talk it up. Use whatever means are at your disposal. Today. Please.
Labels: aiki, aikiextensions, conflict, processarts
| posted by Unknown @ 11/11/2009 01:00:00 PM
