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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/14/2009 05:46:00 PM

 

 

Explicitly value conflict training

Training in any martial art can be character building, teach one to deal more calmly with fear, and increase the chances that conflicts will be averted or end up less violently than in the hands of somebody who panics and either runs or escalates without thinking. Extending this beyond physical conflict, the principles shared by martial training and authentic relationship or good citizenship have been explored around the world through time, from ancient empires to contemporary nation-states. Believe it or not, this relationship is not obvious to everyone and needs to be made explicit in order to increase the number of people ready and able to work through conflict toward a best outcome for everyone involved, in short, to make peace.

Though martial arts can increase the capacity for peace-making they can also increase the tendency to respond with casual aggression to any and all conflict. They can also build in the habit of treating all conflict as a simple win-lose equation where rapid victory at any cost is the most highly valued approach. This depends on how a martial art is taught and practiced.

Making the peace-building qualities of martial training "explicit," in this case, means a series of clear (martial) choices -- hours, dollars, and attention must be devoted to the teachers, students, and practitioners who explicitly teach, learn, and practice even the most dynamic and physical of arts as though the highest value of the training involves changing the rules of conflict as a whole so that even the most difficult differences are an opportunity to learn while insisting that nobody loses their soul, heart, or life in the process. This defeats the cycle of violence in a way that uncomplicated Victory and Defeat cannot. The martial arts do this with physical conflict, with subtle undertones reaching into all areas of life as arts do, while the process arts facilitate this rule-changing processing of conflict while differences in groups are not actively being expressed as physical violence.

If you value the peace-building qualities of the arts of conflict, then make this explicit. Become an active member of Aiki Extensions, get involved with Nonviolent Communications, Processwork, or Association Building Community. If you are looking for a dojo, ask out loud if the teaching is explicitly oriented toward peace-making and choose to support the teachers who not only know what this means but can clearly demonstrate their process arts skills off the mat. Celebrate them with posts to your blog, Twitter, and Facebook accounts and review them on Google Maps, Yelp, and other sites.

Make the connection explicit between your thirst for peace and honest conflict work. Ask for it. Talk it up. Use whatever means are at your disposal. Today. Please.

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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/11/2009 01:00:00 PM

 

 

Don't go to Don's Automotive Repair
2144 San Pablo Ave, Berkeley, CA

The shop has changed hands. All historical information no longer applies. I bought in my vehicle, which was dying in the middle of the street while being driven. I did my best to communicate despite serious language difficulties. When he is not playing PC solitaire or surfing the net, the new owner, Tom, almost communicates through a friend who is his diesel mechanic. They replaced a part, charged fully, sent me away without telling me of other codes/potential problems.

When I dragged it back in after the problem recurred one month later, it t
urns out the shop has sold a half interest to another group of guys, one of whom speaks both Spanish and English and is quite friendly and seems to have it together. None the less, it is Tom and his mate who weren't around when I dropped the van off so their repairs can be finished. Later, by email (my request to be able to have a clue what he is actually saying) Tom recommended (based on error codes only) a new alternator and sensors, and labor at full price, in the process mentioning more error codes and leaving the door open for more charges.

Lindsey Kerr, saint that she is, hooked me up with her Dad (and family contacts) who told me precisely what to ask and how to tell (using actual diagnostics) if the repairs were required.

Apparently Tom didn't like when I asked obviously well informed questions instead of immediately approving his expensive recommendation. He kept the van for another day before telling me his mechanic got called back to Vietnam and instructing me to remove my vehicle by 5pm the same day.

More later when the next mechanic makes or breaks his reputation.

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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/10/2009 02:56:00 PM

 

 

Always fun to make live music. Thanks for the invite, All Stars!

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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/09/2009 01:02:00 PM

 

 

Brandon here. The Paula Craig mentioned below is my mother. Prayers, please, for recovery and gratitude that the dog didn't get through to her neck and head.
Appreciating you all,
B

---------- Forwarded message ----------
Date: Thu, Nov 5, 2009 at 1:37 PM
Subject: Paula Craig Attacked by Rottweiler

Paula Craig was attacked and mauled on Monday morning by a Rottweiler. That is why she was not at Community Monday night. Thanks to Donna for forwarding the news copied below. I just talked to Paula, and she is at home and doing better. She asked that you keep her in your prayers, but would prefer not to have calls, food drop-offs, etc. The mothers of her students are taking very good care of those things, and Paula needs to conserve her energy. She will tell us all about the incident at the next meeting. Meanwhile, please pray for her continued recovery.
Lynn

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Lynn -- this is about our own Paula. Do what you will with the information. Ann Sanchez is my daughter and is involved in RCPTA a parent group supporting Rosemont Elementary (I think). I suppose that is where Ann got her information. -- Peace, Donna

----- Forwarded Message ----
Sent: Thu, November 5, 2009 5:14fa:45 AM
Subject: Ms Paula news

Ms. Paula attacked by dog!

Dear Fellow Members,

First let me say that Ms. Paula, our neighborhood Musikgarten teacher and
Montessori mentor, is healing at home and is already seeing this event as a
blessing. Yesterday morning she was going to visit a friend from church who
is infirmed and, currently, using a cane when the woman's dog, a Rottweiler,
attacked her. The friend dropped her cane and was able to pull the dog back
before it managed to get ahold of Paula's throat. Unfortunately, on his way
to her throat, he bit her multiple times from her ankles up to her thighs
and her right forearm.

She drove herself to the E.R. and they were able to treat her and send her
home yesterday in the late afternoon.

I was blessed to be able to spend most of the day with her today (her
birthday!) and was able to get her to tell me what we can do to give her
some assistance while she heals.
Tracy Wehrmann

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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/06/2009 09:26:00 AM

 

 

Gotta love the Mom...

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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/06/2009 09:14:00 AM

 

 

Parenting 101 - my VT family provides an excellent example


Val: (after a socially frustrating art class)

"Do you know how you tame people?

You say "Hi, excuse me, can I work with you?"
The main problem is they could say no."
Blogger bdwc said...

Wise boy. All the steps mentioned are necessary in taming people (including yourself). 1) Neutral Open Greeting, 2) Empathic Courtesy, 3) Clear Process Request, 4) Presence/ Ambivalent Readiness 5) Freedom for difference/ disconnection. My nephew the Zen Master.


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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/05/2009 12:46:00 PM

 

 

Martial arts for Peace with Dr. Terrence Webster-Doyle


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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/04/2009 01:50:00 PM

 

 

The use and misuse of "Myth" volume 942

reproduced from:

The Washington Post

5 myths about our land of opportunity

By Isabel Sawhill and Ron Haskins
Sunday, November 1, 2009

Americans have always believed that their country is unique in providing the opportunity to get ahead. Just combine hard work with a bit of talent and you'll climb the ladder -- or so we've told ourselves for generations. But rising unemployment and financial turmoil are puncturing that self-image. The reality of this "land of opportunity" is considerably more complex than the myths would suggest:

1. Americans enjoy more economic opportunity than people in other countries.

Actually, some other advanced economies offer more opportunity than ours does. For example, recent research shows that in the Nordic countries and in the United Kingdom, children born into a lower-income family have a greater chance than those in the United States of forming a substantially higher-income family by the time they're adults.

If you are born into a middle-class family in the United States, you have a roughly even chance of moving up or down the ladder by the time you are an adult. But the story for low-income Americans is quite different; going from rags to riches in a generation is rare. Instead, if you are born poor, you are likely to stay that way. Only 35 percent of children in a family in the bottom fifth of the income scale will achieve middle-class status or better by the time they are adults; in contrast, 76 percent of children from the top fifth will be middle-class or higher as adults.

The United States is exceptional, however, in the opportunity it offers to immigrants, who tend to do comparatively well here. Their wages are much higher than what they might have earned in their home countries. And even if their pay is initially low by American standards, their children advance quite rapidly.

2. In the United States, each generation does better than the past one.

As a result of economic growth, each generation can usually count on having a higher income, in inflation-adjusted dollars, than the previous one. For example, men born in the 1960s were earning more in the 1990s than their fathers' generation did at a similar age, and their families' incomes were higher as well. But that kind of steady progress appears to have stalled. Today, men in their 30s earn 12 percent less than the previous generation did at the same age.

The main reason today's families have modestly higher overall income than prior generations is simple: More members of the household are working. Women have joined the labor force in a big way, and their earnings have increased as well. But with so many families now having two earners, continued progress along this path will be difficult unless wages for both men and women rise more quickly.

3. Immigrant workers and the offshoring of jobs drive poverty and inequality in the United States.

Although immigration and trade are often blamed, a more important reason for our lack of progress against poverty and our growing inequality is a dramatic change in American family life. Almost 30 percent of children now live in single-parent families, up from 12 percent in 1968. Since poverty rates in single-parent households are roughly five times as high as in two-parent households, this shift has helped keep the poverty rate up; it climbed to 13.2 percent last year. If we had the same fraction of single-parent families today as we had in 1970, the child poverty rate would probably be about 30 percent lower than it is today.

Among women under age 30, more than half of all births now occur outside marriage, driving up poverty and leading to more intellectual, emotional and social problems among children.

In addition, we have seen a growing tendency among well-educated men and women to marry each other, exacerbating income disparities. If we add to these family changes the fact that wages for low-skilled workers have stagnated or declined in recent decades, we can explain most of the increase in poverty and much of the increase in the income gap as well.

4. If we want to increase opportunities for children, we should give their families more income.

Of course money is a factor in upward mobility, but it isn't the only one; it may not even be the most important. Our research shows that if you want to avoid poverty and join the middle class in the United States, you need to complete high school (at a minimum), work full time and marry before you have children. If you do all three, your chances of being poor fall from 12 percent to 2 percent, and your chances of joining the middle class or above rise from 56 to 74 percent. (We define middle class as having an income of at least $50,000 a year for a family of three.)

Many American families need supplements to their incomes in the form of food stamps, affordable housing and welfare payments. But such aid should not be given unconditionally. First, the public is concerned that unconditional assistance will end up supporting those who are not trying to help themselves. Second, new research in economics and psychology has shown that individuals frequently behave in ways that undermine their long-term welfare and can benefit from a government nudge in the right direction.

And third, policies with strings attached have had considerable success. One example is the 1996 welfare reform law, which required most adult recipients to get jobs, and dramatically increased employment and lowered overall child poverty. In the midst of a recession, we can't expect everyone to work. But social policies will be more successful if they encourage people to do things that bring longer-term success.

5. We can fund new programs to boost opportunity by cutting waste and abuse in the federal budget.

Can we cut enough ineffective programs or impose enough new taxes to put better teachers in classrooms, expand child-care assistance for working families and provide more financial aid to disadvantaged students while reducing projected deficits? The answer is a resounding no. Certainly, we should eliminate fraud, waste and abuse; raise new revenues; and scrub the budget for additional savings. But these alone won't get the job done. Just three rapidly growing programs -- Medicare, Social Security and Medicaid -- along with interest on the debt threaten to crowd out all other spending in a few decades.

So we also need to revise the contract between the generations in a way that gradually reallocates resources from the more affluent elderly to struggling younger families and their children. Such a shift would not only help create more opportunity, it would improve the productivity of the next generation, making its members better able to contribute to the costs of retirement -- including their own.

Isabel Sawhill and Ron Haskins are co-directors of the Center on Children and Families at the Brookings Institution and the co-authors of "Creating an Opportunity Society."

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   | posted by Unknown @ 11/02/2009 06:50:00 PM

 

 

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